Written by Administrator | 12 September 2009

Hey Guys,

Today I'm going to talk a little bit about Power Social Skills, a course from a good friend of mine, Carlos Xuma. Carlos is a social skills guru, he's been doing this for years and years, and over time he developed a course that will show you exactly how you can maximize your social skills to ultimate personal gain.

I have one question for you:

Do you know the rules of socializing?

I'm quite sure that some of you didn't even know there were rules for that. But there are... Especially if you want to:Create real change in your social ability in ONE week.Detect social games as soon as your friends begin to talk to you.Learn about the dysfunctional game players.How to avoid being manipulated by your friends.

If you want to learn about all of these, please read this letter he...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 01 July 2009

A tribute to MJ.

 

 

 

Written by Eduardo Amado | 25 June 2009

The art of making friends can be summed up in a single word: rapport. In the same way, the art of becoming popular also can be summed up in a single word: attitude. In this article, I'm going to teach you exactly how you can develop the attitude you need if you want to become popular

Having attitude is a characteristic that comes from a lot of different beliefs and values you have, as attitude is not a single characteristic but can be defined as a certain personality type.

The good thing is that you can manage to transform yourself into an person with attitude easily, if you wish to; that's because attitude is not written in your DNA, it comes from the way people learn to expose themselves to the world and the beliefs they incorporate in their personalities as they grow up.

To be the...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 24 June 2009

Have you ever wondered about that feeling of uneasiness you have when  you're thinking about breaking your word?

Like when you tell a friend you're going to his party, but you end up having too much work to do that day and feeling like you were ran over by a truck but you still go because of that damn feeling? That feeling comes from what psychologists call Commitment and Consistency, and we're going to use it to make new friends!

Commitment and consistency, according to psychologists, comes from the fact that we as a society have grown because our words have that power over us. If whatever we said was meaningless, society as we know it wouldn't exist.

They say that consistency in enforcing our commitments is a sign that the person is a highly mature and valuable person. That's...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 23 June 2009

The third principle we are going to study from Cialdini's Influence is going to be Liking. It is obvious that the more people like you, the more they're going to comply with your requests or help you climb up the ladder.

A boss that loves you is a lot more likely to give you a promotion than a boss that doesn't feel anything for you. It might not be fair, but it's life, and we must learn how to take control of everything we can in order to succeed socially and professionally!

Which is why I'm not going to teach you why liking helps our case, but how you can create that bond.

Creating the bond of liking is generally called rapport. When you're in rapport with someone, it's as if you're in sync. You're laughing together, you're finishing each other sentences, and so on.  But how...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 23 June 2009

We're going to have a little chat about giving... We are still studying Cialdini's Six Laws of Influence; this is the time to study Reciprocity.

I know that most of the times we just want to ask for favors and not give anything in return, but after I teach you this rule you'll learn that the best thing you can do is to GIVE your friends favors.

The rule of reciprocation says that we must try to repay what another person has given us.

This is an implicit rule in society, haven’t you ever felt obligated to do a favor for someone because they have helped you sometime in the past? This feeling of indebtedness is exactly what the rule of reciprocation tries to exploit. We are going to use it in order to get ourselves ahead in the social game easily.

Remember my last article, the...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 22 June 2009

I’m going to start a new series of articles today focusing on the six principles of influence delineated by Cialdini. I am going to focus on teaching you how to make friends by using those principles.

Today we are going to talk about social proof.

The principle of social proof states that we find out what is correct by finding out what other people think is correct. You might realize this whenever you’re having a discussion with your friends in a bar. The person that gets the most people to agree with her (I’m no dummy, it is usually a girl :P), wins the argument.

But we can exploit this trait in human society in order to make people like us more and more. How do we do that?

Well, it depends on your goal. If you want to become popular, you should befriend the...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 19 June 2009

 

It is easy to make friends when you are not making a lot of mistakes. You have to learn that having a friendship is like having a savings account. You have to put in more than you take, otherwise, you will end up with no savings at all. And if you put in a lot of effort into your friendships, and don’t take much out of them, you will soon discover that your effort is more than worth it.

The best way to learn how to take as little as possible, and give the most possible in a friendship, is to learn which mistakes you will have to avoid.

Let’s dive in! First mistake: Never call!

The fastest way to lose contact with your friends is to never call to make plans. I know that you expect people to love you and call you every day, but it is probably not...

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Written by Eduardo Amado | 19 June 2009

Step 1: Open!
When making friends, the first step has to be the opening of a communication channel. It doesn't matter if it is verbal or non-verbal, I will teach you how to do both.

The easiest way to strike a conversation is by saying the obvious - "Hi my name is _____!". If you want to befriend the person you are sitting next to, you can touch them in the arm as you say that. Don't hold them, don't do any kind of weird touching. A light touch signaling friendliness is the best way to show that you are open to them, and that you want to be their friend.

A non-verbal way to open a communication channel is to use your body to do something fun. For instance, spread your arms wide open on the chairs next to you, and as the person you want to become friends with sits down, you can say...

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